Jesus said, or as good as said, we will one day be like the angels in heaven, He said that the angels in heaven are neither married or are given in marriage. He spoke these words to the Sadducees who asked Him what you might call a very interesting question “Saying, Master, Moses said, If a man die, having no children, his brother shall marry his wife, and raise up seed unto his brethren. Now there were with us seven brethren: and the first, when he had married a wife, deceased, and, having no issue (no children), left his wife unto his brother: Likewise the second also, and the third, unto the seventh. And last of all the woman died also. Therefore in the resurrection who’s wife shall she be of the seven? for they all had her. Jesus answered and said unto them, Ye do err, not knowing the scriptures, nor the power of God. For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven.” Matthew 22:24-30.
This question here appears to be one of the most baffling questions in the whole bible and of course the answer is equally as baffling to most people and if everyone is to be honest then the first thing they usually think of is the sexual element to Jesus’ answer and so the whole thing tends to become either over sexualised or under sexualised although others might take the more moderate view. It might possibly help us all to look at the marriage vows and how marriage works on earth here. Going back to the days of Adam before Eve came along you had a picture of a man who slowly or quickly realised that there was none like himself amongst all the animals, which he incidentally was naming, this we gather left him extremely lonely so he desperately needed someone who was like himself and no-doubt he could see that all the animals were both male and female and so God made him a help meet and that help meet was of course Eve. And so looking at this situation and somewhat applying it to ourselves, this is what we do when we get married, we desperately need somebody who is like ourselves and so we pick a partner who has all the same interests and all the same likes and dislikes and who fits in completely with our world and so we marry this person and the feeling of course has to be mutual and we even leave our father and mother to marry and become “one flesh” as Jesus said. So a definite element to getting married is finding someone who is just like ourselves and that both fit in with each other’s world.
The other elements to getting married are the marriage vows themselves which are:
“I take you to be my lawfully wedded (husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.”
These marriage vows are very interesting when you consider this big question here that was given to Jesus because all seven would have said in their marriage vows “to have and to hold” so by tradition each brother would have had no problem with his brother marrying his wife and so, with this kind of thinking in mind, each brother would have gone on to say, “from this day forward, for better, for worse…” – For “better, for worse” is interesting here because the dead husband’s vows would, though he be dead, still apply in that he still has love for his wife and would want her to be happy on earth and therefore would have no issue or problem with his brother marrying here and even no-doubt having her looking after his children (should he have had any) and even given her more children because that’s what marriages are largely about, having children of course! And don’t forget here that her original husband or even husbands are in heaven where things aren’t quite the same as on earth in that everything is better now and not worse and the same would apply for “richer, for poorer…” – there is a different society out there in heaven and everyone has plenty and there’s less of an issue with poverty – “in sickness and in health” is also interesting because everyone is healthy in heaven and there is no more sickness, particularly when you talk about your resurrected body, which brings us into the last part of the marriage vows – “until death do us part.” And so nobody dies in heaven so it’s a whole new ballgame in heaven and a whole new society! The marriage vows on earth are “until death do us part” because whilst on earth we need that greater sense of security that only marriage can bring and so we seriously need a partner who we can trust until death do us part and who we can also trust to be there for the children that God gives us whilst on earth. It’s a whole new ballgame in heaven though and a whole new society of people because everything is now better and not worse, everything is now richer and not poorer, everything is health now and there is no more sickness or death and of course, all being said, there is no more insecurity, and to add to the wonder of heaven, everyone is more like yourself and you are more like them so everyone will feel secure with everyone, everyone will trust everybody in a world with no bars and no locks on the doors and in a world of course where we are like the angels and if you think your husband or your wife knows all your secrets, the angels know them more and most of us would have no problem with an angel simply waltzing into your front room or into our bedrooms and in some ways you can even picture an angel being something like a good doctor in that you share all kinds of secrets with your doctor – and of course, Jesus is your best doctor!
So in heaven, there is more intimacy and sharing of secrets and everyone gets to know who loves who and there are so many people that you feel so close to that nobody needs to feel alone and left out anymore and just like all the other good seven husbands in heaven, all they ever longed for was their wife’s complete happiness and now their wife who is now in heaven still longs for the happiness of all her seven husbands and both they and her, now being resurrected in that their original body on earth has been restored back to what it was like before Adam & Eve fell into sin, are as intimate as they ever were. So clearly, looking at Adam & Eve, they didn’t formally get married, thy were simply brought together by Jesus Himself Who told them to be fruitful and multiply and look after their wonderful world there in the Garden of Eden so when we look at the resurrection, then we quickly realise that there IS SEX in heaven because we are restored to our former glory like Adam & Eve and that being like the angels doesn’t mean there isn’t sex in heaven as some people say but it DOES MEAN that there IS SEX and SO MUCH MORE!There are many wonderful intimacies that we can all have and share together and some of these intimacies go deeper than sex and if this is true then why is the intimacy of sex such an issue here? The intimacy of sex is largely about sharing secret things, sex itself being symbolic of taking your lover to your most intimate and secretive places. We sometimes let people into the heart of our house, that heart being the front room but our more intimate lover gets to come into our bedroom and so even whist on earth an angel can quite easily walk into our bedroom without knocking the door and we have no problem with this! So in heaven we will just as easily walk into each other’s lives and into each others front rooms and into each others bedrooms and into each others arms – everything becomes a warm loving embrace – in a world where no one needs to lie and cheat anymore and all those middle walls of partition are finally broken down and everyone knows everything about everyone in a more caring and sharing society where honesty is the key to every heart, where we truly do become the True Bride of Christ, where every one of us becomes as One, as One Bride and One Lover with our Lover of all Lovers, Jesus Christ! And with NO death do us part!